No, really I AM truly happy with all my boys and don't NEED a daughter to be fulfilled.

Sheesh.  Ok, so this pregnancy has been a doozie thus far and I'm barely even 8 weeks into it!  I've been tweeting about how annoyed I am about my debilitating morning all-day sickness and how so many people have responded to my pregnancy with

"Oooohh, you might finally get your girl?!!"

Can I just say how God-awful annoying that is to a mom of boys?  I mean, look at this picture....do I look like I don't already have everything I want?

Even some of my closest friends, who I know LOVE me as much as I do them, have said things about how I just HAVE to be having a girl and how wonderful it's going to be.  And then, I die.  Not because I wouldn't be absolutely in love with a girl if I had one, but no more so than if I could brag about having FOUR sons in my life!!!!  I know how much fun it could be to have girls...with my sister recently giving birth the most angelic baby girl on earth, I couldn't be more happy or proud as an Aunt.  I love that little tootsie more than life itself and I am unbelievably happy for my sister and brother-in-law.  But none of that takes away from me loving my boys and having room for one more!

I was at a friend's baby shower this past weekend and she's got 3 boys (like me) and is having a girl this time around with number 4.  We both had such a great convo about how when you have 3 boys and are pregnant with #4, people just give you that empathetic {almost} reaction when it comes to talking about the sex of the baby.  As if "finally getting your girl" implies that you've been missing out on something during your whole journey as a mother.  And that somehow if it's a girl {and not simply a healthy baby} that you'll finally get to die a happy person.  That your life will somehow now be complete.  It was refreshing to talk to her about how she dealt with it and how I am now starting to deal with those comments.  Because, truth be told, I have never been one to fall in line with the white picket fence notion.  I would be BEYOND elated if I found out we were going to be adding another little ferocious boy to our family! 

Ok, not that I like cleaning up 5 toilets after them all but there are tradeoffs with either gender.  And by the same token, if I had ALL girls, I would hate to be made to feel as if my experience as a mother were less than ideal because I had no sons to speak of.  It is all just too much sometimes. 

Given that I am classified "advanced maternal age" this time around, my biggest prayer is not that I look up at the ultrasound screen and see the highly coveted "hamburger buns", but rather my baby be healthy and all good, regardless of the sex.  Plus, if you ask my two older sons {and hubs}, they aren't at ALL keen on having a little girl around this house.  Apparently all they can envision is the sight of Barbies lying around all over the floor. Seriously. That's what my two older boys came up with.

So while I try and muster up my energy each day of this pregnancy to stay an active mom of boys who are in fall baseball, flag football, soccer, tackle football, piano, let's not forget school - I hope that the insinuations that hubs and I are finally going for "our girl" will soon die down.  Because I am so incredibly in love with my boys.  So much so that it makes my mind smile when I think about the possibility of adding one more of them to this life.  Boy or girl - it makes no difference to me.  I've already got the best of it all.

Comments

[Miss Amy]

I LOVE being a boy mom too. Of course I wish for you just a healthy, happy baby...but deep down, I hope it's another amazing boy! The three you have are perfect in every way, and I can't wait to meet the next one!!

[Lisa @ Oh Boy Oh Boy Oh Boy]

I have to say as the mom of three boys, whom I love to pieces, if I had more it WOULD be to try and have a girl. I am loving being a mom of boys. The sports are fun and I've only got one toilet in the house so its gross as can be but I've started making THEM clean it. BUT I had the best friendship with my mom and I have always wanted that with a daughter. But since I don't think I can handle anymore, I plan to just wait for daughter in laws and hope I get at least one who likes me :)

[Theresa]

I just came across your blog, I had to comment on this post! My first four babies were boys and I had the same reaction you have, insulted to think that I would TRY for a girl. What would happen if I were trying for a girl and got a boy instead? That's a big setup for disappointment. I LOVE my boys! I ended up with two girls right in a row. It was hard for me when everyone was so satisfied that I FINALLY got my girl. :P I and am now pregnant with my 5th BOY! And I'm so excited to get out the cars and trains.

I hope your morning sickness gets better!

[Johnna]

I also have three boys and just found out that I'm prego! If another person asks if we were trying for a girl I may go ballistic on them. I adore my boys! And honestly, I want another one! Every time we've found out we're having a boy it's like we've been able to breath a little better...girls come with so much to worry about and deal with. No, I'm good with cars and trains...I'll let someone else mess with the bows and frills and drama! :) Watch, now I'll have a girl...lol!