Let’s face it, when you first meet your other half you are full of energy and sparks for the new found relationship. It is exciting, it is new, and you spend your time enjoying one another’s company. But as time goes on, you both can be guilty of getting comfortable with one another. It isn’t a bad thing. Life can change. Children can affect your relationship, financial strain or work stress can take its toll. Too often we can neglect our relationship when actually you are stronger united. With that in mind, here are some of the things to consider if you find that your relationship is under a little strain recently.
Have you considered counselling?
One of the first things to consider could be some couples counselling. Not only does it open up a line of communication with your partner, but with someone there, they can prompt you to discuss and open up about things you never thought were causing an issue. Things like marriage counselling or even taking on individual sessions could help you become more aware of your feelings and thoughts, which then in turn, communicated could mean that you end up solving unresolved issues.
Could a chance for better communication solve things?
Communication is key in any relationship, especially a loving one or a marriage. So if you find that the talk has stopped then reignite the flame back in this area in your life. Proactively take the time to ask your partner about their day, create time to talk, and develop a new habit of actually engaging in conversation. Too many couples can be guilty of scrolling their phones and watching TV together, but not actually spending time or communicating. You could even allocate one night a week away from distractions where you just talk and reconnect.
Do you just need some alone time to reconnect?
Sometimes you just need to opportunity of alone time to reconnect and date nights can be a great way to do that. This particular option works well if you have a young family that tends to drain you of all your energy and time. You could try and find babysitters in your local area so that you can go out for a meal. Better still, why not take the plunge and book a night out or even a cheeky weekend. It will certainly help you to keep the spark alive in your relationship, and it gives you something to look forward to.
Are there any underlying issues that need addressing?
Finally, are there any issues that are yet to be resolved? Sometimes if you don’t address these things they can fester and both you, even if you don’t think they are causing you an issue. Being in a relationship or marriage means you can be honest and yourself. If things are not going so great address the underlying issues and come up with a plan of action together. Sometimes leaving things doesn’t mean they get forgotten, they just end up being brushed under the carpet. But this can cause more harm than good.
Let’s hope that these tips help you to rekindle your relationship.
CANDY TAI is a wife to David and mom of 5 with a degree in Communications. She's a native Texan (Hook 'Em Horns!) who's been making her home in the Kansas City metro area for nearly 15 years. She loves being able to shuffle her kids from their various sports activities, piano lessons, and school activities. She enjoys fashion, beauty, reality TV, and moviegoing.