Having a family is one of the most rewarding things we can do as human beings on this planet. Knowing that you are part of raising the next generation of world-changers is a big deal and can make you feel on top of the world. Sometimes. Other times, it can be a bit of a knock to your self-confidence. Perhaps you’ve given up a career to stay at home and look after the little ones, or you’re finding parenthood a challenge. Any of this can have a knock-on effect of your self-confidence. Read on for some tips for improving how you feel about yourself, starting now.
We’re all really good at being negative to ourselves, so using positive language on yourself and trying affirmation might take some practice. But regaining your confidence will be worth putting in a little time and effort. Instead of saying negative things to yourself, focus on the positives. You might want to start a gratitude journal so, at the end of each day, you can feel good about what you have achieved and the aspects of your life you wouldn’t change for the world.
Be Nice to Yourself
Speak to yourself as if you are your own best friend. Seem confusing? If you catch yourself saying something internally that you wouldn’t let anyone say to your best friend, you need to shut it down. Don’t bully yourself and have a go at making your inner monologue a kind and supportive one.
Dress for Success
It might seem superficial on the surface, but pulling on a killer outfit can really boost your mood for the day. Whether it’s a lipstick that always makes you feel great, or a new bra for support and comfort from Genie Brand, find (or buy) an item that leaves you feeling like you can do anything. If you find yourself just throwing on sweatpants and you know that won’t leave you feeling your best, it’s time to carve out a little more time for yourself to get your look back in order.
Self-care is basically any activity that you undertake to promote your own mental, emotional and physical wellbeing. It’s not a selfish act if it gives you the stamina and confidence to pick yourself back up again, feeling good, positive and capable, ready to face the world. It might mean exercise, half an hour with a book, or some meditation – whatever your self-care is, make some time for it.
Reconnect with Your Partner
Especially if you’re new parents, or have a young family, it can feel like your connection to your other half is slipping away and being replaced just by you two as parents and caregivers. But, if your confidence is slipping, chances are it was your partner who would help you feel like you could take over the world. It’s time to have a chat, reconnect with them and check in with how you’re both feeling. Don’t be strangers and look after each other as you face the challenges of parenthood together.
CANDY TAI is a wife to David and mom of 5 with a degree in Communications. She's a native Texan (Hook 'Em Horns!) who's been making her home in the Kansas City metro area for nearly 15 years. She loves being able to shuffle her kids from their various sports activities, piano lessons, and school activities. She enjoys fashion, beauty, reality TV, and moviegoing.