When a good friend has a child, you want to help them in any way you can. Even if you've never had your own children, you can imagine how tiring and overwhelming it must be. However, if you have never had children of your own, you may be unsure of how to best assist.
When we are unsure, we tend to avoid it. You may convince yourself that what your friend genuinely requires is distance. And she does, but you can give her space while also being there for her when they need you. Here are some ways to do just that.
Be Present Be But Considerate
Never drop by uninvited. To be honest, most of us these days will text notifications of our impending presence. But keep in mind that your new mom pal is unlikely to check her phone frequently. Whether you do plan to drop by, make sure you inquire ahead of time if that is okay. Also, don't overstay your welcome. It's ideal to go with a specific goal in mind, such as dropping off a vital or assisting with a task When you're finished, you're out the door! Don’t forget a little something for the newborn too, a piece of baby jewelry could be a good choice.
If you're going to her house, always bring food with you. There is no such thing as too many home-cooked food deliveries for exhausted mothers and fathers! If you can't or don't have time to cook, bring something freezer-friendly which can be reheated as needed. Stop by their favorite fast food restaurant or bring some healthy snacks for breakfast or lunch.
Run Some Errands
Inquire with your friend if she has any tasks that need to be run. If there's a letter that has to be posted or a prescription that needs to be picked up, it's a job in your name. If she needs to accomplish anything in person, offer her a ride. Pick up extra toilet paper to drop off at her house when you complete your weekly shopping.
Lend A Hand Around The House
Isn't there a massive pile of laundry next to her washer? You can make it vanish magically. What about those breadcrumbs on the carpet? They are no match for your vacuuming abilities! Allow others to send her flowers and sweets. You can be the one on the battlefield who does the hard work and gives her the gift of time.
Spend Some Time With The Baby’s Sibling
If this is your friend's second child, she is still grappling with an entirely new experience: caring for multiple children at once. It's especially difficult if the older sibling is still quite little. Any parent does not want their older kids to feel neglected. You can assist with this! Bring something special for Big Bro or Sis, or take them out for a special morning and to give the mum a break.
These tips should help you to be a great friend to your friend who just had a baby. Do you have any other tips that could help? Please share them in the comments below.
CANDY TAI is a wife to David and mom of 5 with a degree in Communications. She's a native Texan (Hook 'Em Horns!) who's been making her home in the Kansas City metro area for nearly 15 years. She loves being able to shuffle her kids from their various sports activities, piano lessons, and school activities. She enjoys fashion, beauty, reality TV, and moviegoing.